Reality

Reality - Am I the only one running away from it??? I don't have an answer.  

It's not the time to be awake but sleep seems to be eluding me for some reasons. Lot of thoughts cramped up having no way to flow out. So trying to see if some scribbling can help me out!!!.

A recent phone call from one of my friend made me think about few things that I try so hard to forget or even to remember. I need to say that he is not just a friend, but my best friend who is capable of making me smile, cry or even think. He asked me the question, indirectly.

Reality - A thing that exist. Not an illusion or fear. It cannot be erased. Reality can be happiness or sadness. If happiness, I guess its not a problem. It can be dealt easily. But, how about sadness????

I have tried hard to forget as reality disturbs my day to day activities. I sometimes even try harder not to accept the reality. But it is what it is. I also know that I am not being held responsible for everything that happen to people around me. But it’s not that simple to keep it aside when that person holds a special place in my heart. It Hurts. As tears roll, I am so SORRY that I am not around when needed the most. SORRY. Not able to do anything other than being sorry, seems to be like running away from the hard truth. I don't have an answer to the person. I don't have an option either. As of now.

Moving on, Accepting reality could be the best way to deal with it.  Easier said than done. Other than accepting it, there is no other way. Mistakes made are decisions that went wrong. It cannot be regretted. Even if regretted, cannot be altered. 

The best possible solution could be to remember the decisions that were made earlier and not the faults that followed. I am even trying to remember the decisions that were not made by me, still affecting me. Since life is all about learning, these hard realities are lessons for me to remember. So that at least when the time comes, I could see to that the person whom I hold close doesn't suffer from the decision's that I make.

Few decisions are made to go wrong. But taking the same stupid decisions is not the way to live. That's what reality teaches.

Not sure of where I started and where I ended....But I am still trying hard to accept the reality as it unfolds right in front of me as the days pass by.

Naren.

Trust, an answer!

Trust. A lot of things are build over this. Things??? Hmmmm...Not the best of words to use. I would put in....Friendship, relationships, love, respect, confidence, and many more. Removing trust from all these makes Life empty. There is no Life without trust. Trust get's you happiness. There's no Life without happiness.

Trust. A very powerful word, which can make changes to life. It's also a very small word, actually. But, where does it come from??? Its comes from you. It's yourself. It's your image and it never leaves you. Its the words that you speak. Its your actions. It's your own reflection. It's YOU. A memory of  YOU, inside the other person's heart.

The person.....Dad, mom, brother, sister, friends, GF/BF, wife/husband, kids, neighbors, professors or a even person whom you might just talk for a day or two and never meet them. It could be anyone. But trust comes with time. It takes time to construct an image inside the heart. And time could be minutes, hours, days, months, years or maybe even just few seconds. It depends. Along with time, words and actions build the image. But if the words and actions are just lies, the image crashes like glass. Never can it be fixed. Even when fixed, it doesn't not look the same. And the crashing hurts the heart. A very fragile one.

When Trust is build on Truth, it gets everything to you. It gives you confidence and self-belief. It makes you happy. It gets you great people around you. But the question is, are they worth your  belief, trust and truthfulness?? Time is the answer. When situation's present them-self, actions and words speak. That's the answer to the image inside the heart. It might become a solid statue or a broken vase. Depends.

At the same time, being yourself will never be the same with everyone. Its the comfort level that comes along with the other person, words and action. It is different with parents, friends, BF/GF, husband/wife, etc, etc. As the comfort level increases with trust, the level of being yourself with the other person goes to the next level. It does not mean that you are being different. Its just that, as trust increases, you show your whole image.

Trust: Truth and Lies. Separating them is not easy. Words and actions can be manipulated.

The above mentioned lines are my idea of Trust. Just my idea. Everyone will have their own.  Pass on your's. Would love to understand more about it.

But, how about being true. Being yourself. Is that so tough? I cannot answer it for anyone. But, not for me. That's what I think. I might be wrong. But not so far. I have a great family and a great set of friends. With my dad, mom and bro it has never been a problem sharing things. Its the easiest thing to do. Its the comfort level that has come with trust. I know that they believe my words and actions. Its the trust they have on me and I have on them, which has come with truth. Also, there has been little lies here and there. I have hid few things. I still hide few things. But, it will be out soon. They have been for me still now, and they will be for me, Forever.

Next, Friends. Trust plays an important role in friendship. It grows with truth and time. Its about sharing memories. There are lot of secret's which friend's don't share. That's fine. Its their own "personal" Life. But, if they are them-self's with you, there nothing much better than that. 

On that note, I am extremely happy to have a great set of friends around me. From school, under-grad, and Grad. As far as I know, they have been them-self. Through all the ups and down. Together. From high school, till now. Fun. Laugh. Grief.  Many more. Will have them thru my life. I guess so. If I can be myself with them.

I found that being myself, had few advantages. An incident in undergrad. She was a good friend of mine. I thought she was being herself with me. At the end, I felt a little disappointed. Not heart broken or something!  lol :) I was myself. But not her. When I think about it, she was not herself. She just needed some help, and used mine. OK. I am happy at-least, that I was myself. I cannot ask more. A little pain, that I trusted a wrong person. But, I never felt that I broke the trust she had on me. I am happy for that!!!

As far as my learning goes, the best thing to do is.....being true to yourself and not casting a false shadow around yourself. Its gona hurt. Not the other person. lol!!!! Its the person with shadow and lies!!!

I am not perfect. Never. Never can be. But I try to be myself with everyone. It's tough sometimes. I try my best at heart, to love everyone. I know that by trusting everyone, I might get hurt one day or the other. At-least, I will be happy that I tried my best to be myself with them. If they don't see it, I will be sorry that I lost a friend.

Naren.